With some of the mail I get, it becomes clear to me that I need to provide a cautionary page regarding interacting with spirits in general, but particularly certain types of interactions, namely romantic and/or sexual partnerships. While there are people in this world who have spirit companions, this is an unusual situation and a contract not entered into lightly. For these companions to be someone who is a well-known individual is almost never the case. People who are well-known must be particularly cautious about entering into such a relationship with an incarnate person due to the particular dangers posed by lower entities. We can't all be the consort of Rudolph Valentino, Jim Morrison, Kurt Cobain, or whichever attractive discarnate celebrity strikes our fancy. The majority of well-known spirits that I have encountered are very diligent about not posing danger to those who are still in the body and will do all they can to insure the safety of their admirers.
A human spirit will have the same basic personality that he or she did in life. With a person who had a very troubled life, they will change and grow as they heal from the traumas they endured. Some spirits are Earthbound because they wish to correct mistakes they feel they made in life, or they died prematurely and want to continue working in the Earth sphere. These are the kinds of spirits that I work with. The spirits that I work with are most often male, and several of them are people who were well known to varying degrees. I will not drive myself crazy by speculating on why this is the case. I've always had guy friends. Maybe because I'm an older sister I give off an energy that guys find non-threatening. Who can say?
The letters I previously mentioned concern my co-author. They are from women who believe that he is their lover, or he is following them around obsessively. We want to impart with due seriousness that THIS IS NOT THE CASE! As previously stated, it is risky for spirits in general and particularly risky for the spirits of well-known persons to initiate sexual relationships with incarnate humans. None of the spirits I work with would want to create a potentially deadly situation for anyone.
My co-author had something of a dark reputation, but it is necessary to distinguish his stage image from the actual person, and to keep in mind that his troubles in life caused him to behave in certain ways that were mostly designed to protect himself. Having been plagued by both internal and external demons while he lived, he would NOT do anything that would subject someone else to the mental suffering that he endured. Lower entities that prey upon vulnerable people enjoy causing just this kind of suffering. For him to initiate a romantic relationship with a living person would risk opening the door for negative entities that would have no qualms about pretending to be him. Such entities impart obsessive thoughts and desires into the minds of their targets. These thoughts and desires seem more real and wonderful than anything in the target's life. The entities causing the thoughts feed off the resulting energies of lust, longing, and despair. The end result for the human host of these psychic parasites is psychological and psychic anguish. People who are prey to these entities often suffer mental breakdowns. Some commit suicide.
Pelle wishes for me to impart in the strongest possible terms that he is not going to be following you about obsessively or trying to seduce you. The people he is around most often in the living world are people that he knew in life, such as his siblings, and those friends that showed him true kindness. He is fairly open to contact, but he has no desire to stalk, obsess, or control anyone who makes contact with him. He is uncomfortable with people who contact him with intent to seduce him, and he really, really does not want to watch any of you masturbate, thanks anyway.
As well, he holds in disdain those who contact him with the intent of having him "kill my enemies," "teach me spells to kill my enemies," or anything else of that nature, stating that "the next person who calls the great Evil Dead to teach him the unholy rites of Satan may well get puked on." More likely, they will simply be ignored. People doing any of the above may well get something to contact them, but it won't be him.
If you feel that at some point he helped you work on a song, poem, picture, or story, that is certainly possible. He is a creative person and artistic pursuits were one of the few things he enjoyed in life. If you think he is trying to spark up a romantic relationship with you, or that he's telling you to sacrifice your neighbor's chinchilla, he is not. Again, despite his image, he behaves in a very ethical fashion. He would not wish to subject anyone to the troubles that such an alliance would entail.
Highly evolved spirits such as beings from the angelic and elemental realms are able to project their consciousness to multiple people at once. All human spirits, whether incarnate or discarnate, are able to send energy to as many people as they wish at any given time, though they are not able to project their consciousness as a more highly evolved spirit or deity can do. It is easier for a discarnate person to do this than for most incarnate people. What my co-author does is to send energy to people whose thoughts he senses. He is very polite by nature and wishes to return good will in kind. However, he's not Balder or an angelic entity or an elemental power. He can't divide his consciousness between multiple places, and to hurry from place to place every time he sensed someone calling on him would exhaust him. While discarnate spirits do not need to sleep as such, they do expend energy, and their energy levels can become depleted. Though they are of course not vulnerable to physical illness, they are still vulnerable to conditions such as depression, and they too can be vulnerable to attacks by lower entities should their energy levels become too badly depleted.
Trying to entice any spirit to be your lover should be approached with extreme caution in any case, and only by an adept who has given the matter very serious thought first. Again, it must be emphasized, it is particularly ill-advised to attempt engagement in such a contract with a well-known spirit. Obsessing on the idea of making such an individual your lover is potentially deadly. I speak from experience in this matter.
When I was in my early twenties, I was contacted by an entity that introduced itself as my "spirit lover." It filled my mind with disturbing, obsessive thoughts. It took the form of a person that I greatly admired and who had died several years previously. It got to the point where I rarely left my apartment. I would sleep for days on end dreaming graphic, perverse, highly sexual dreams. I am ashamed to admit this, but I cheated on my then-husband because he couldn't fulfill the perverse need I had for constant sexual stimulation. There was nothing romantic or even pleasurable in the contact. The guy was unattractive both physically and emotionally. He referred to women as "bitches." He rarely bathed and thought of passing gas as an art form. I felt sick when he touched me. I finally mustered up the strength to break things off. After that, things got worse. I became more obsessed with the spirit lover than ever. One day I was told that my spirit lover was going to take me home with him. I was ready to go because my life was misery.
I felt myself ascending to the "Heavens" with my spirit lover. There was beautiful music playing and a bright life engulfed me. I exclaimed how beautiful it was. But within moments, the music became a cacophony and the bright light went out. The choirs of angels were revealed to be lower entities who laughed at my plight.
To this day I believe I would have died if I had been alone. My then-husband noticed that I had stopped breathing. He sat me up quickly and forcefully and shook me until I started breathing again.
Before all of this was over, our apartment caught fire one night while we were gone. Amazingly, none of our pets were killed. To this day I feel that the person whom I had the affair with put a curse on me after I broke it off, and that the obsessing entity was only too happy to help him fulfill his wishes of revenge. I don't know how much control the entity was exercising over this guy, but it wouldn't surprise me if we were both its puppets.
I hope that my sharing this story will impress upon you the importance of protecting yourself from obsessing entities. I
am not issuing this warning from some sort of puritanical standpoint. There isn't
anything wrong with acknowledging that my co-author was a handsome guy.
There isn't even a problem with thinking you wouldn't have minded
a go at him, although he finds such thoughts disconcerting when he
senses them. He's pretty shy about such matters.
If you believe that my co-author or any other spirit that was not known to you in life is following you obsessively or lusting after you, he isn't. He doesn't follow me constantly either even though I'm a walking conduit to the spirit world and he finds me easy to talk to. We work together on a creative level. And while I might be in his "Fave Five" incarnate people whose psychic "calls" he tends to answer, he certainly does have other things to do besides hang around me. I'm not saying if I am or I'm not, it's just an example. I'm simply saying that this is the way he and other spirits like him tend to behave.
I have learned through the school of "hard knocks" that the best approach to spirit contact is the open-minded skeptic approach. Acknowledge that the spirit COULD be who they say they are and extend them the same respect and courtesy that you would if meeting them in life. While Earthbound spirits do like to visit people who have "opened the door" to contact, none that has any kind of positive intent will ever be angry if you are skeptical about them being who they say they are. They are aware of the dangers to incarnate people and care about your safety.
A person who is an adept at mystical practices or a lifelong medium will be able to trust their impressions better than a neophyte. But even adepts must protect themselves.
ALWAYS PROTECT YOURSELF! You wouldn't let a complete stranger into your house (I hope.) You would get to know him or her first.
Do NOT trust any entity that introduces itself as your "master" or your "lover." Do NOT trust any entity that follows you everywhere at all times. Spirits do not follow anybody, including their loved ones from life, at all times. An entity that follows you at all times is probably a psychic parasite or an energy vampire.
A person's individual spirit guides and guardians are always accessible to them and most human spirits will come if you call, if your intent is genuine. However, the energy of guides and guardians is subtle and unobtrusive. You shouldn't feel them hovering at all times, and they will never impart the idea that they are your "lover." As for human spirits, most contacts last an hour or less unless they are focused on a specific task and working with a person who is able to keep the veil between the spirit and material worlds open for longer periods.
We hope this essay has helped you to discern between positive and negative spirit contact. Keep an open-minded cautious attitude, and don't be afraid of being "rude." Protecting yourself is not rude. Its self preservation.
Blessed be.
Lily and Friends